My wife beats me

The Silent Suffering of Men in Abusive Marriages

"She hits me, insults me, threatens me — but I stay silent because no one would believe me. I’m a man after all."
If these words resonate with you, you're not alone.

Domestic violence against men is a deeply under-reported reality, often dismissed as laughable or impossible. But the truth is, men can be victims too — and their silence only adds to the pain. In this blog, we’ll explore this issue in depth, challenge societal myths, and provide actionable help, including Nayku’s confidential legal support services.

Understanding Domestic Violence Against Men

What is Domestic Violence?

• Domestic violence includes:
• Physical assault (hitting, slapping, pushing)
• Emotional and verbal abuse (humiliation, threats)
• Financial control (restricting access to income)
• Sexual coercion
• Social isolation

When the Abuser is a Wife

Although societal stereotypes paint men as abusers, many husbands suffer quietly at the hands of their wives. Abuse can be:

• Physical: Slapping, throwing objects, punching
• Verbal: Constant insults, belittling
• Manipulative: Threats of false legal action, custody threats
• Coercive Control: Monitoring phone calls, movements, finances

“I was afraid to speak up. Everyone would laugh at me.” – A common sentiment among male survivors.

Why Most Men Don’t Report It

a) Social Stigma

Admitting that your wife beats you is seen as weakness. Society often shames men for being “unmanly” if they open up about abuse.

b) Lack of Legal Awareness

Many men do not know that they too have legal rights, and help is available — confidentially.

c) Fear of False Accusations

In India, Section 498A of IPC was designed to protect women, but misuse of the law has been reported. Some women use it as a tool of retaliation during conflicts or separations.

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 Legal Rights for Men in India

While Indian laws primarily protect women, men do have options:

a) Section 9 - Hindu Marriage Act (Restitution of Conjugal Rights)

If a wife leaves or denies access without reason.

b) Section 14 - Domestic Violence Act (Protection Orders)

Though DV Act is woman-centric, men can file for relief through counter-cases and by collecting evidence.

c) IPC Sections 323, 506, 504, 355, 500

These can be used to report:

• Physical injury
• Threats
• Defamation
• Insult and assault

d) Child Custody and Maintenance

Fathers can seek shared custody or visitation rights. Maintenance isn’t always automatically granted to wives — especially if they are working.

e) Filing a Harassment Complaint

A man can file:

• Police complaints with collected evidence (audio/video, messages)
• A civil suit for protection or separation
• An FIR under IPC for bodily harm

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 Gathering Evidence — How Men Can Build Their Case

a) Recordings

Keep audio or video evidence of threats, violence, or insults. Ensure the recording is done in compliance with privacy laws.

b) Medical Reports

If injured, get a hospital record. It can be used as evidence.

c) Witnesses

If neighbors or friends have seen incidents, their testimonies can be valuable.

d) Digital Evidence

Save messages, emails, and chats where your spouse is being abusive or threatening.

 Psychological Impact on Abused Husbands

Men suffering abuse often experience:

• Depression
• PTSD
• Anxiety
• Suicidal thoughts
• Alcohol/substance dependency

But these issues are rarely addressed because mental health for men is often dismissed.

Nayku connects you not just to legal experts but also to mental health counselors trained to handle such delicate situations.

How to Seek Help – Step-by-Step Guide

Identify the Abuse
Don’t normalize toxic behavior. If it hurts, it’s abuse.

Speak to Someone
A trusted friend, family member, or therapist.

Get Legal Advice
Confidentially connect with Nayku’s online legal experts who are trained to guide men in abusive relationships.

Collect Proof
Start gathering evidence discreetly.

File a Complaint
If necessary, proceed legally. You can file an FIR or civil case with support from a professional.

Plan Exit or Mediation
Whether you want to separate or resolve, Nayku helps arrange legal mediation too.

 How Nayku Helps Men Facing Domestic Abuse

💼 Online Legal Consultation: Speak to certified lawyers from the comfort of your home.

🧠 Counseling Services: Confidential sessions with trained mental health professionals.

📄 Document Drafting: From counter-cases to protection orders, get expert assistance.

🔒 Confidentiality Guaranteed: Your identity is safe with us.

📱 Available in Hindi & English: Talk in your preferred language.

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FAQs – Men and Domestic Violence

Can I file a domestic violence case against my wife?

Yes, although DV Act focuses on women, you can file other criminal charges and counter-cases.

Will police believe me?

It depends on your evidence. With proper documentation and legal support, your case can be taken seriously.

Can I lose custody of my children?

Not necessarily. Courts often award shared custody or visitation based on the child's best interest.

What if she files a false 498A case?

You can file for anticipatory bail and later, a defamation or perjury case if the accusations are proven false.

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Breaking the Silence – The Final Word

It's time we normalize the truth: Men can be victims too. Abuse doesn’t care about gender. The moment you feel unsafe in your marriage, you owe it to yourself to act.

If your wife beats you — physically, emotionally, verbally, or mentally — know this:

💔 You’re not alone.
📘 You're not weak.
⚖️ You have rights.

🔹 Talk to Nayku. We’re not here to judge. We’re here to help.
🔹 Your healing begins the moment you speak up.
🔹 Click here to connect with a legal expert in confidence.

If you’re in an abusive marriage, don’t wait. Speak up. Get support. Nayku is here to empower you — legally and emotionally.